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Originally Posted by dustintochampagne
i have to wonder if although i love my partner so much, that because we are so similar, that it wouldn't be healthier for me to but to be with someone who was maybe, mental health wise, healthier than me?
but i've gone through a period in our relationship before where i felt like this and then distanced myself, and i'm going into one again, i can feel it. my partner & i have been together for almost 3 years now (and were best friends for a long time before that), but i do worry about the future. at the same time, i love her very much and don't want to hurt her.
i want to try and make us work right here, right now at least. so when she gets off work tonight, she has the next two days off.
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I'm sorry if I confused or upset you. I also misread what you wrote! I thought you had the next two days off, not her.
It sounds to me like your cart may be too far ahead of your horse? I think we can influence others by our own positives more than we realize; we just assume we're not very good for others or they for us, etc. and don't think about the things that go well or reasons we are together in the first place. Maybe work on your self esteem, grow to enjoy and like yourself and I bet your girlfriend will grow in her own self esteem and the relationship will go better/with less friction? My husband has always had great self esteem and I have grown enormously because of him but, if you asked him, he'd say he's learned and benefited from me! Think about what you want/like and go toward that and I bet she'll join along happily and/or have the courage to do her own thing better and you'll enjoy that.