Emailing my T is a gift she has given me that I will cherish for the rest of my life. I have always had more to say, much more, than fits into the therapy hour, even though now I get 1 1/2 hours. I'm making up for all of my silence in the past. I email my feelings about the session and how I'm doing. Sometimes I ask my T to clarify something she said. Mostly, it's just that I need that connection right after therapy and I always have.

My T always replies, usually the next day. At first we didn't have the agreement that she would do that, but I finally asked her and she said she would always reply. I was in shock, moved to tears. I think she knows how much it means to me. No T has given me so much as this one. I feel like the emails are my lifeline.

I know that most Ts don't email the way mine does. She answers in detail, and started using a different color in between my words. You have to ask your T if and how you can email her. Every T is different. For me, it solves that connection problem you brought up, but maybe it wouldn't work for you and your T. I wish you luck in finding a way to connect with your T after sessions, 78.