Hey everyone, this is my first post, and I'll try to be brief and to the point.

I have a fear of being abandoned by the person I am dating. I've carried this fear through previous relationships, and I've seen the pattern every time. I told myself this relationship would be different but I'm doing the same thing. I keep pushing my partner away - he never does - and I keep finding reasons not to believe we will work.

He's an amazing guy though, and I want to find a way to get over this fear. Him and I talk openly about both our problems - his is that he feels unable to love (anything). I've admitted to him that I'm afraid of relationships, time and time again, and for the longest time he was so reassuring, up until last week when I think it hit him that things aren't changing.

We went on a "break" as of yesterday so that we can give each other space. I need this so that I can stop thinking non-stop about him leaving me. Its effecting every other realm of my life.

How can I stop pushing him away?