I had this problem, I talked to hubby and we came up with a plan...

I could phone him at any time and he would talk to me telling me he loved me. That he would leave something special with me (his watch) and tell me to look after it. He would leave notes around the house for me to find again letting me know how much he loved me. assuring me he was not leaving. That if I told him to go (while having a row etc) that he would stop me by saying I love you I love you I love you over and over again, it would stop the row immediately.

This had to happen for a few months slowly lessoning in time to the point now where I am fine. I even laugh at myself for being so silly so often !

Give it a try it may just work for you...