This weekend I was around my Grandma and she made a comment that my cousins are going to be in town. They live in the Houston area and aren't in our neck of the woods that often due to the fact one of their children is not good in the car and it is about a 12 hour ride in the car and flying with their brood is too expensive.

She said I guess there will be a get together so we can meet their adopted little girl and when she said adopted it was kind of snotty. My other cousin has 2 step kids and when we are counting her grandkids she doesn't count them in because as she is quick to say they aren't blood. I fear she is going to do that to this precious little one too. Yes "Sara" is adopted and isn't blood related but she is still ours just like the others are ours too whether they are blood or not.

I don't know whether to say something to her or not. It really bothers me that she doesn't see "Sara" as just a Granddaughter she sees her as an adopted Granddaughter she has her as label. I hope she doesn't keep reminding her of this as she grows up. "Sara" has some difficulties as her mom was a drug user while pregnant with her. I am not sure what they are but Grandma has a problem with people with problems so I think that is going to cause problems too. I just don't want her to stare at Sara and say something negative to her or my cousins.

What should I do?

Jan