An honest friend today has told me that I have the naiivity of a 5-7 year old when it comes to male/female issues. I was thinking I was like a teenager or a 20 year old. With that impression given to me, I realize that my singleness has nothing to do with my church involvement, but is rather an effect from childhood sexual abuse. I am frozen emotionally as a victim. With that in mind... and the fact that I have a date for a party on the 13th... I need advice. My friend said I should cancel my date and GET HELP. I have a therapist, but apparently in the 4 years I have been seeing him have only dealt with church stuff... haven't touched on childhood stuff much. This is my dilemma. If I cancel my date, I will be closing the door on an area of growth that I want to open up. If I go on the date... am I being abusive by misrepresenting myself as someone good enough to date? Only pedophiles would take out a 7 year old. Apparently, I am emotionally a 5-7 year old. Am I wrong to go on a date? Should I just stay alone instead of working on this stuff with dating? I dont' want to mess up anyone else's life. I just thought that if I start dating, I can begin to grow in that area. Tell me what you think. I am in a bad spot. I'm sorry I haven't been writing much here. I guess I got obsessed in the dating adventure. I need you all.