can you ring them and ask if you can come over? i knwo that would be hard but can you say you just want to pay your respects? or in my family we would visit wiht food......would that work...... Im sorry i dont know if that is ok in the jewish religion..

its so hard when somoone passes and they meant a lot to you but maybe noone but you and they knew - the thing to do jmo is hold that love close to you and remember all the good things - somtimes it makes the pain more bearable -

remember everyone greaves differently and for different amounts of time - dont set your standards by other people - wea re all individuals - be kind to yourself at this time and do comforting things

someone once told me that those who live on in the hearts and memories of others never truly die ...im so sorry for your loss