Dear Volatile

It is true that people lash out at those they love, but that is only until they have learned how to love the right way instead of the wrong way, or if they have salved the anger within them and no longer need to give it vent

In truth there is no anger in love, so it is important to find out where the anger initiates itself, where it catapults itself from and lodges itself to

Just as we have found that there are triggers in other things like laughter, tears, fear, there are the same triggers in anger, things that people react to

With anger we are reacting to something that is old. For instance when Rhiannon used to react to her partner looking at another woman she wasn't in fact reacting to him looking, because she knew that was normal, so it would confuse her and she would cry with frustration

Rhiannon took herself on what is called a step back and viewed it as a bystander. She saw that she was reacting to the way her ex-husbands ogling and ongoing affairs made her feel and expected that because he was that way her partner would be the same way and so she would get upset and prepare to leave

After the stepback journey she understood it all and the fear left her and took the anger with it. So dear volatile at each step of anger that you lash with, before you let loose an arrow think quickly to yourself and ask "now where did that come from?"

Children who are brought up with anger rarely know anything else and so they let it have its head. Those who are quick to anger but do not understand why have their own work cut out for them and must follow each trail back to its origin in order to see what that trigger is

I truly hope that you can take a step back and see where your anger comes from so that you realise you no longer have to use it. What you expect is not always what will happen, so please do not jump to it because it hurts you

Morgana