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Old Oct 14, 2010, 05:09 AM
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I'm in exactly the same situation compgeni, although I'm only 25, just a couple of years behind. I can talk to girls. My efforts to attract a partner have resulted in me accumulating many female friends while I was at university, just no girlfriend.

One girl in particular I really liked said "you're not like a guy because I can talk to you". It's a nice, well-intetioned complement but rather emasculating. At work, another girl was pissed off about something her boyfriend did one day and was saying "argh, MEN, all a bunch of dickheads, I hate them!" and when I looked up she said to me "oh, not you, you don't count". I guess she meant I'm a nice guy, but really felt like she meant I'm not a guy.

It's really sad when I look up people on social networking sites I knew from school and university and see they're almost all in a relationship with someone, usually living with them, and many are married. Especially if it's a girl I once had a crush on.

I tried internet dating, almost all women ignore my initial email, some reply but it's only a rejection. I think it might be because I'm a bit of a geek and not what they're looking for. They seem to like outgoing guys with lots of interests. You should try it to see if you have any more luck than I did. Though, if you dont, remember you're not the only one -- don't let it get to you. I recommend plentyoffish.com because it's free for both to communcate, as opposed to some sites where you have to pay to send emails and the girl also has to pay to read them.