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pegasus · Oct 15, 2010, 05:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Hunny

(((((Pegasus)))))

Sometimes, yes, this happens. I have a bit of an interpreter within who can decipher things but when I am tired or triggered or perhaps distracted elsewhere I have noticed that the sentence they are speaking is coming to a close and I haven't heard much of what the speaker was speaking about.

I haven't noticed a trend toward it being when theya are saying something nice, like when you do Pegaus. That is pretty profound that you notice it happening around compliments though.

I wonder if it is a child part that comes forward and just doesn't want to be bored by meetings or misled by an adult to be swayed this way or that or misunderstands the conversation or is talking about fire and the possibility of a trauma situation. Sort of like hyper-vigilance. Keeping safe is so important and sometimes a certain person may look like someone, or sound like someone or smell like somone or I am being treated in a certain way and I have to establish safety for the small insiders and let the adult/mature part address the current issues.

Mostly, lately in grown-up situations I am trying with all my heart to let the small insiders just live calmly, safely away from the grown up world and let the mature parts take over. Mostly it is working and someone is listening and can interpret.

Anyways, these are just some ramblings that may or may not be helpful.

Thank you everyone, all your comments are helpful.

I don't think this is happening out of boredom as it tends to happen during a crucial part of a sentence and often when someone is directly speaking to me. I do think it is a protective part of me that comes out and decides that I don't need to hear what ever is being said. It could be a safety mechanism to protect me but I no longer need this to happen as an adult!

I did work on this in therapy years ago where T bombarded me with compliments, eventually I did get to hear most of what he was saying but I did want to hit him!!

I guess for now I am just going to keep asking people to repeat what they say to me even though they may be right next to me.