About 3 months ago my girlfriend and I split up due to me hiding the fact i was talking to another girl at work. Nothing happened in the way of the physical, but i did keep this hidden from her-as well as hiding the fact i had a girlfriend to the girl at work. I love my girlfriend very much and never did i imagine us to be in this situation. We started having issues about a year agolack of intimacy,communication, doing things together...it became just an existence for a while there. For the past 6 weeks or so my girlfriend and i have been seeing each other...talking more frequently...even took a trip to Niagara Falls together for a long weekend that we just returned from . We both had a great amazing time and it felt good and right for both of us. The I Love You's are back and so is both of us sharing how we feel, and how we wish this never happened. Just to make it clear...me and my girl were best friends, awesome,compatible lovers who connected on that Soul level...you know? We are and have been seeing a couples therapist for the past 8 weeks now and we are both happy about him and the work getting done. I feel we are moving closer to reconcilation. The only thing is is that she wants me to be honest with her about this other girl ... even though there was no romantic interest, she still wants to know why and how I could do such a thing as deny her,and secretly talk to her behind her back. I seek help in learning how to be open with her...without fear. To be honest with her. I know thats all she wants and i want to be able to let my defenses down and be that guy, but i find it hard mainly because i dont know what to say...i think she is thinking its more than what it was, and although i dont blame her..because i would think the same if i were in her shoes. Please help me. This is the only bump in this road we are on to begin healing from this and i really want to be able to learn to express myself...the big things as well as the little things.....especially how and why i could be the sneak i was.....help me