I have had the same worries, that T is somehow going to think *I* was wrong, or overreacting if I tell him something that makes my abuser seem human or 100% evil. Because I see that person so black/white, it's hard to accept that T sees both black, white, and grey.

I also really understand feeling like you should be grateful for what you got from your family. We can recognize that what we got wasn't enough, but still see that our family did the best they could. it just wasn't what we needed.