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Hunny · 09:18 AM

KP,
I know this too re the tv. Mostly, with the advent of more technology, I mute most everything I watch and read the subtitles (as poor quality as they are at times). It makes it so much more understandable. i don't have to respond to the announcers voice, the dramatic music or the crashing and loud stuff going on. Or, I'll keep the sound lower. Perhaps, years of hyper-vigiilence watching body language of people who say one thing and do another? Yep, I think so.

Also, there are certain outer people who can interpret things for me, like close family members. When I watch a film or certain tv shows I don't understand they can tell me what is going on. This happens alot on the more aggressive to violent shows, especially the ones with all the special effects. I just cannot watch them sometimes at all. Maybe the little insiders get too worried. I could never watch the cartoons that beat people up while I was growing up.

But not to take away from the theme of this thread, I do think that when there is a person talking to me that doesn't seem genuine, seems passive aggressive, precedes their comments with a compliment, my system does seem to go on high-alert and listening is one of the least important tasks at that moment. My body seems to be preparing for defense at that and life saving. Sheesh, even if it is only perceived as you have stated Pegasus. Fight, flight and hyper-vigilence!

I wonder if the speaker can sense the fear at times, even that thought is present when I am in the midst of it. Lol, little do they know this is all happening internally.

But, having said that, it seems if there is an adult alter at the forefront, which I try to prepare for iin the work environment, I am more apt to be listening, paying attention, focused, willing to collaborate, negotiate or take up the task or whatever is being said. It's usually when I'm rested and life generally is more calm or there is an illusion of calm within. Little ones are safe, protectors are reasoned with and distracted and adults are interacting with each other as one would expect.

This thread has made me think that this may be how the controllers , perps, groomers go to us. They prefaced it with compliments and that destabilizes the system and they know it but needing to relate as adults is what we need to do.

How ya doin' Peg?