Wow, I can't believe you are still holding this against him. You did talk to him about the card in June, and he did give you an explanation then and in fact left you a sweet phone message: "He left a sweet voicemail though. But he said he was busy configuring his computer." So he didn't get you a card because he was busy with his computer. You know the reason he didn't give you the card, so why do you say you don't understand? It seems pretty easy to understand. He got busy and forgot!

By continuing to want to talk about this card thing with him, could it be you are creating problems in the relationship?

Although what Perna wrote can be helpful sometimes to keep in mind for many situations, a person can also go too far in the other direction, and just accept whatever treatment the other partner dishes out. I'm not saying that was the case for you in this card incident, but I learned when my marriage broke up and I went to marriage counseling, that a big problem in my marriage was how I had not spoken up for what I wanted and needed. If I was treated like a doormat, I just accepted that ("I can't change him" mantra) instead of speaking up and saying what was and wasn't acceptable. I'm not sure he would have changed or not in key ways that might have preserved the marriage, but at least it would have been clearer what would not be tolerated in the marriage and he could have either changed his behavior or I could have dissolved the marriage sooner. (I could have also changed my behavior if he ever expressed what was wrong, instead of just having to guess what was eating at him and try to guess what changes to make to appease him. I know that marriage is a two way street.) By my "I can't change him so why try?" attitude, I did not give the marriage every possible chance to succeed. I have worked a lot in therapy to realize that the other person is not an immovable, unchangeable stone and that only I am the one who must change. Both people in the relationship have a responsibility to make it work. It is hard to learn that seemingly simple fact after all these years, but there you have it.

So on the one hand, SakuraLi, I do respect you A LOT for speaking up and saying you were disappointed to not get a card. But I think that saying it just once was enough. Your BF did explain why. End of story. I think if gifts and cards are mandatory requirements of a relationship for you, then this may not be your guy for life. I think it also might be worth questioning if the cards need be so high on your "must have" list. I think how they treat you every day is more important than if they remember to give a card on a special occasion. But we all have different needs and wants.