I'm not sure what to do in this situation.

Earlier this year I found my former youth pastor's wife on Facebook and we became "friends". I recently figured out that she "unfriended" me. I think he had something to do with it because of my past relationship with him. I was very clingy and needy to him. Since I had "friended" his wife I had sent her maybe 3 messages and that was it. I think I sent one about the holiday's, one when I asked her to be my "friend" and one when my parents were in the same town where they live. When he was my youth pastor I put him through the wringer. I feel sorry for him. I had given his wife my email and told her to give it to him and I never heard from him. I was hurt and moved on. I have grown up a lot since high school and the last time he and I were in contact with each other.

I sent his wife a message on Facebook apologizing for anything I did wrong and telling them how much I have changed. He isn't on Facebook and I don't foresee him being on there anytime soon. He has left for Iraq for a year and I would hate for something to happen to him and for us to have this unresolved issue. "Brad" was my rock for awhile and I had such a crush on him but as most of you know I am deeply in like with Rex. I won't say love because I think love is a 2 way street.

Anyway what should I do? "Pamela" said she would pass the message on to him and see what he says but I don't know I still feel there is something else I can do. Suggestions?

Jan