mixed, i think this is not a good idea. my experience with a dual relationship with my T ended up precipitating the end of my therapy.
my T taught an artists' way class but it was super small--three of us. the first lady dropped out because of health issues, then i later needed to as well for health reasons. my leaving would have left only one person so my T tried to basically get me to stay in the class. she totally acted in a way that was so not in my best interest and really triggered me. it was completely untherapeutic and i just didn't feel like i could go back to her as a T after she broke my trust like that. i had never had a rupture with a T before in all the years i've done therapy. it was a very upsetting thing to go through to see my T act in a way that was so harmful to me considering my background which she was fully aware of.
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
Hopefully, we'll be able to use this to help me with the hurdle of my own self-esteem issues....my constant quest to please people, satisfy people, feel worthy (without getting it from within)...and then my fears of letting people down, not being good enough, etc...and then the ANTs that come from within the deepest parts of me, telling me how I'm a failure, just a joke, that people just tolerate me, I have nothing of value, I'm worthless, have no talent, etc.
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i hate to be pessimistic but i think the complete opposite will more likely happen. all those issues you mention will come up and because you are working for your T it will make it very difficult to address them in the relationship. honestly mixed, this can likely jeopardize your therapy. the comment you made about him wanting to give you a job sounds like your T wants to rescue you. that's just not his job. it sounds like you've finished the current work project so this is a good time to end the dual relationship if you want to preserve your T relationship.
