Hello Duck!
I am in my 50s (and male) and was in my 40s when to my delight I found out I have a blended form of autism-Asperger's Syndrome. I have been "high functioning" in some ways all my life and low functioning in others.
This discovery has opened big doors for my self-acceptance and self-awareness and discovering successful adaptations.
I have found the writings of Donna Williams and Wendy Lawson very inspiring (among others).
I truly welcome you!