T should know that he did something wrong - code of ethics isnt something to be taken lightly!!! Of course he didn't do it to hurt you, but his offer did have that consequence and this is something he would have been well aware of because of his training.

Your feelings that he did something wrong are completely valid, mixed.

As for given up an opportunity - T isn't the only driven and successful person out there. If he is a great role model, then use him to help you find opportunities elsewhere. He can be of immense benefit to you as a client... as a colleague the dynamics are different and you may find he's not really the role model you were seeking at all (not because he is bad, but because you focus on different things and this simply may not be a virtue that you see often in a working relationship vs therapy).