sunrise: My parents wanted a close relationship; at least my Mom did. I just couldn't tell her my problems and I suffered because of it. I am letting myself feel close to my grandchildren regardless of how they feel about me. That's a little different. It's scary, like being close to my T.

I went to a new yoga class and afterwards, the instructor asked if I "hug". in the past I would have been hesitant, but I'm not any more. It was nice!! That isn't something I directly learned in therapy, but it's a result of it.

I don't think it's pathetic that you want to stay in therapy to experience that closeness. I feel the same way, so are we both pathetic?

Melba:Thanks! I'm not sure if it's like that for me, but I know there's something I have to process before I can fully accept what my T is giving me.

WePow: That's what is so sad, then. I WANT to have relationships like the T one. It hurts not to be able to have that IRL. My T says I will be able to give that to myself, but it's not going to be the same as HER being the one to give it to me.

Yes, it makes sense that we practice in therapy and then apply it in our lives, except for the closeness part.

Zoo: I hope we both find answers to this dilemma.

Luce: You are probably right, which makes me feel like I want therapy to go on forever even if I'm not obsessing. It's so good (the connection part) so why would anyone want to give that up? Ever? (except for the money it costs)