I had a similar situation with my former T whom I saw for more than 5 years. I didn't see her every week outside of therapy, but we were in the same religious group. If I had to see her at church every week, I think it would be hard. I managed because I'd run into her about every few weeks at various social or religious functions. The hardest was a class we both attended and once she sat next to me. I felt like a deer in the headlights.

Did you know your T from your church first? I mean, did you choose him as a T knowing you had a dual relationship? How does he feel about it? My T had no problem with it, but she realized it was hard for me. I always HAD to go up to her and try to make small talk when I saw her, but it was hard because I felt like I was pretending! I wanted more than chit-chat but that's how it had to be.

If you can talk to him about it, that's good. What does he say? If it gets TOO weird, maybe you should consider seeing someone else. But I never wanted to switch T's either. It was helpful, like you said, to see her just being a regular person, just like me. But also weird!!