T and I just had this discussion last week.I was invited to a shower his wife is hosting. I felt worried. T assured me the shower was not at his home and it was my choice on whether I wanted to attend or not. He said, I was welcome in his home had the shower been there or for any future events. He said dual relationships are inevitable in towns like ours. For the record, I will not be attending the shower. And as thoughtful a response as my T gave, I do not see myself attending events at his house. I prefer not to blur the boundaries if at all possible.