Spirtitual Emergency, you make some exellent points and Jaffe sounds like a real douche bag! But as a woman who loves her schizophrenic bf, Im hearing the negative and positive of all the info Im gathering. Im still fearing what the illness and meds could do to my sweet guys. I appreciate the strong, courageous people with this illness and their caregivers, they are a great comfort to me. I`ve learned a lot from all of you. Im still mixed up trying to cut through my own problems and feelings while trying to orient myself with what positve resources are out there. its tough too because my bf doesnt want to identify with being schizophrenic and doesnt want any part of support groups. he believes that when his Doc plans to take him off the meds next year in March things will be fine and business as usual. I have my doubts but I pray my sweetie will be fine. My bf said the Doc tells him he can live a normal life but what is considered a normal life for a schizophrenic. I personally have no clue but that doesnt ease my fear and I cant help having despare mix with what little hope I have.