I think, in general, Ts have well develop self care skills and are capable of managing their own feelings and pain. I think too that many Ts are highly empathetic, and this leads them to feel right alongside us. There's a distcintion I think, though, in that they may not necessarily feel OUR pain... but perhaps feel FOR us. Perhaps their pain - that which makes them cry with us - is that they see a human being who is hurting. I don't think they take on our pain, per se.

I don't think your Ts tears were because of you being 'too much' for him or him not being able to 'cope' with your feelings. Perhaps they were simply because, as a fellow human being who cares about you, it saddens his own heart to see you hurting.