I would think about the "too much" part. What does that mean to you? Everyone is human, has feelings, etc., we can't really become too much for ourselves (since we are ourselves) so how could that be too much for another? Other people can't really become us, feel our exact pain. I think as Luce says, there could be two or three reasons for your T's tears, but they're his tears, based on his experiences, not your tears or based on your experience. Can you ask him?