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Oct 18, 2010, 04:15 PM
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Member Since: Jun 2009
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dps writes (when in therapy):
"I said I was angry, and he said that is good. Not that I was angry but that I was for the first time really getting in touch with anger."
dear wonderful dps. i have written you privately about my own journey in expressing anger and offering hopefully helpful ways to finally release it that don't hurt anyone, especially you. i am too scared still to share those things here, but just wanted to say i hear you loud and clear.
not even to be funny, but short of tying those that hurt us to a stake and lighting the match, there are many "safe" ways to let it all out, so to speak. one i will share here is to write their names on paper. taping them to a wall and throwing darts at them is a good start (also not even to be funny, this anger is serious business and the hurt is too real, as is our hidden desire to see them suffer as they made us suffer), but i also, with much pent up anger, hurt, and bitterness, tear up the pieces of paper with a vengeance slowly for each evil name, and then toss the torn and broken pieces into the trash, dismissing them from my life, out of my mind, forever bannished to oblivion.
even momentarily it can be empowering, allowing a brief respite from the fear of unleashing the rage. each release of anger will bring you closer to closure, and finally blessed relief that they can no longer hurt you anymore.
rants are another way, and written-but-not-sent letters, and other things i shared in my PM to you. am in no way near to solving this dilemma personally, but the anger is so much less, it has exhausted me more than i care to mention to hold it in anymore.
i wish you well my dear friend, and send you love and healing thoughts. your T was right, this is a good step you have reached, you are making progress. please continue to write and share. you are helping this old gal for sure with all that you say. i admire your courage and commitment to heal more than i can say. take care for today, and am wishing hope for all the tomorrows, and wishes for finally letting go of the past for all of us.
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