Thank you for your support. Just hearing that someone thinks i have rights and that i'm not selfish for wanting my space makes me feel good and "worthy". You may not feel the same when i say the reason she is with us is because she got into an argument with her father, she was disrespectful because that is how she has always talked to him, it seems to be allowed. Anyway he lost his temper and hit her and she called the cops. My bf's family is very needy. One brother already has his sister, mother and sisters kids living with him and his wife. His wife came into the family knowing the situation. She knew they would be living with them. He also gets ssi money for 2 of the kids and his sister is on disability and mother gets soc. sec. Another brother already has 5 kids is unstable and can barely keep a roof over his own family's head, i thought at one point his kids would be needing a place to live. My bf's neice was staying with a family friend but her father didn't want her there and threatned to call child services so she had to leave. Then she was with her step mother who isn't with her father anymore and i don't know what happened, she says someone else moved in and there isn't any room anymore and the step mother says that she wasn't following her rules. Plus according to my bf she was complaining about having to feed her and give her money. She is always needing money from us too. She has no problem asking for money for transportation or to buy her an outfit, shoes, she wants her hair and nails done and she likes to be taken out to eat and always likes to order the most expensive thing on the menu. This weekend she balked because we chose to stay in instead of go into the city to find something to do and eat out. She said to my bf on saturday, "so your going to sit in the house all night". She makes a mess everywhere she goes and leaves it, so i have two people to clean up behind now. Did I mention shes home all day with me and is bored. She asks me what are you doing today? I have nothing to do except go to appts when i have them. I have no life. And I'm depressed so I don't have motivation and energy to do things a lot of the time and i don't feel like dealing with company. I can't take it. Today I was at the pharmacy so i took my pressure and it is somewhat elevated, not dangerously 147 over 94, i've gone much higher. But I could tell because I feel jittery all the time. My bf is afraid to say she can't stay with us because he thinks his family and his neice will think badly of him and she will hold it against him and not want anything to do with him anymore. His family is very emeshed and i feel they think they should come first all the time. I'm afraid to try to find an apt. and be on my own being on disability i don't think i can afford it. I'm in his home state too so i don't really even want to be here if i'm living on my own even though i've been here for years now, i lost alot of the friends i made when i was working. Anyway i'm sorry this is so long. I just am so stressed and since right now no one is home yet i can be online in peace. I can vent. I know nobody can fix the problem for me but just to have people say i have a right to feel the way i do is helpful to me. Thanks!!!