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Originally Posted by CedarS
You definitely have a right to feel how you feel.
I couldn't be in your situation myself, I also need lots of alone time and calm.
I think your bf needs to make you his priority in this situation. He needs to care about what you think and feel.
His niece needs help. Your bf can find out about social services available for her and her immediate family.
You are being treated like an unpaid babysitter with no rights, that is not fair.
I know from experience how hard it can be to figure out how to move while stressed out, but that might be a good option for you. Are you in therapy to help you during this time? Is there any case management available for you?
Big hugs to you, I sure can relate to your situation.  |
Thanks for your kind words and support. That is just how i am feeling, like an unpaid babysitter with no rights. My bf doesn't want her off galavanting so he doesn't even want her to go anywhere during the day while he's at work so i am the babysitter and i told him it wasn't fair to me. His reply was she likes being with you. I'm sorry but so freaking what. I don't want to be a babysitter all day. That is supposed to make me feel good? I know there will be people who think i'm being selfish and i do feel somewhat bad about the situation but i am suffering. I really am miserable day and night, i don't even sleep well. I don't even want to be home. Tomorrow i have group and i'm going to try to make it and she'll probably ask if she can come with me because she's bored. I just told my bf again how this is making me feel and that my bp is elevated and that i'm thinking of moving because of this. His response, thanks for being supportive. He said what is he supposed to do, she has nowhere to go except to the brother that has his sister and her kids and his mother and they live in the next state and she doesn't really want to go there, she wants to go to school here, she is supposed to start next week i hope. My bf says that will help since she won't be home during the day and it will help but i still am not happy and can't deal with the situation. We don't have the room and we have one tv in our bedroom and one computer. We have no room for her stuff and ours, the place looks worse than usual because stuff is everywhere and she just throws her clothes and shoes wherever they fall. Everytime I bring up the subject to my bf he sighs and groans and tries to walk away, he doesn't want to hear it and has nothing to say. He can't even tell me how long he thinks she'll be here. I feel its indefinete. I may have to think about moving, scared as i am i don't think i can live like this for long. Anyway thanks again for your support it means so much. By the way i do see a T. i went today and she suggests moving also.
Anjelmarie