Jen,

This is an important subject for all of us.

Something we need to remember is that people don't always listen to what we say to them. If they have a private agenda they will often ignore anything we say that doesn't suit them.

We need to be loud and clear. If explaining our own needs is a problem for them, then there was little likelihood of a real friendship developing IMHO.

I have been astonished at the perseverance of people who 'wanted a piece of me' as I may have mentioned in previous posts on this subject.

You are a kindly and sensitive person, Jen, and you deserve to be treated with respect by everyone you befriend.

Good thoughts (no private agenda!) Myzen