Dearest jbug

How stressing for you when you have your mothers surgery to think about. I must admit I too was concerned when I read that your mother was not seeing oncologist surgeons. They are specialist for a reason. But if you are confident then that is all there is to it. I shall be thinking of you and keeping you all in mind

As for your aunt take a deep breath and let it pass from ear to the other and out the other side; she is in her own way showing concern and love for your mother and it be that she does not know any other way to do so

Just know that you are in my thoughts and I hope all goes very very well for your mother