I certainly know very little about Jungian psychology. However I do believe that one needs to put the blame, or I interpret your use of self - responsibility, where it belongs and that is with the abuser. You were the one that was hurt and not them. It is the abuser that should feel the remorse not you. I agree that acceptance of what happened is important but not accepting that what happened is correct. I am sorry but I may be misunderstanding what you are saying but I hope you find the peace you are seeking. Good luck with your journey and I look forward to your posts letting us know the details of your quest. Take care.