sometimes i think i'm processing my feelings but then realize later i'm really just dwelling on them and stuck. i just don't know how you know which is which when it's happening. any ideas as to how to tell the difference? also, i know how to repress feelings or get stuck dwelling on them but i don't really understand how to feel them and move past them in healthy ways. are there any good books or resources about this? i've got the two dysfunctional opposites down pat now i need to learn the healthy way.