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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Maybe I know what it is. I wish I could have told my mother what was bothering me like I can tell my T. I wish a lot of things in my past had been different. But it's too late now. I need this kind of relationship with my T but is it really how you are supposed to be with others? I don't think people are so honest with one another. Are we supposed to be?
Life is awful frustrating and challenging. Only my T gives me what I need. It's all too confusing for me right now. Why is it so good with her? I don't think I deserve what she is giving me. She's trying to make me feel good about myself but I still feel like a failure in many ways.
I'm just rambling. I don't know why.
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Hi rainbow. T is there as a safe relationship where you can open up, trust and heal. You are not expected to be as open in real life as in T, and it is always good to be vigilant and look after yourself. There are many people out there who take advantage of people who are open and vulnerable. It is especially not wise to share your history out there, except with some very close and trusted people with whom you are very comfortable. But it can be enough to share that only with T. However, you can learn many important things in T about assertiveness, trust, conflict resolution, and communication skills within close relationships, how you love, what your triggers are, etc. etc. that you can use with others in your life. And hopefully, the T relationship will help you establish relationship with a special and very trusted person out there with whom you can share everything. Such relationships do exist in the real world too, but the t relationship will always be able to give you something different as well.