I agree with you Belle, the more I tell myself I shouldn't feel bad about what they did, the more I deny my own feelings, the harder it gets to let it go. In fact if anything I feel worse because now on top of heart break, I would get the feeling of being pathetic for crying about something that as everyone said, shouldn't hurt me so much.

I'm kind of where you are now, in that state where I no longer wish to deny my feelings. I stopped denying and I accepted how life was right now, told myself I had the right as a human being to feel my emotions, yet still had that dead-line. And I feel good today, unhurt or affected by the cheating or the lies, I've been talking about all the fun stuff we used to have, the jokes and the teasing, with my friend who knew him too, and it's not hurting me at all. I can accept that at some point in time I really loved him, and he might have loved me too and we had fun and were happy, but I can also accept that things are different now and it's time to go on.

Hopefully it works for you, like it has for me!