We do need to be sensitive to the biases and preferences of our psychiatrists--and therapists. I was once labeled as a "high-functioning borderline" and discovered that that diagnosis tends to "upset" some docs. In fact, I was looking for a new psychiatrist after I fell out with the "old man," so I called around to different offices. One receptionist said I would be accepted depending on my diagnosis. That intrigued me. "What diagnosis doesn't she take?" I asked. "Borderlines," the receptionist answered.

(Note: After years of therapy and two rounds of DBT, I know longer have that diagnosis--at least the last three therapists and my psychiatrist say that they don't see it in me....)