I know exactly how you feel. My husband doesn't get it either, he isn't interested in learning more about it or even talking about it too much. Here's how I see it: most men are "fixers". You tell them the sink is clogged, next thing you know they've got a wrench in hand. BP is something they can't fix and then they feel not only inadequate, but guilty too. Which is why they tend to block these things out. The good news is that I'm sure he loves you as much as you love him.

Here's what helped me..I quit talking, nagging, fighting and begging (well, most of the time, anyway ). I count on him to help in the ways he knows how. "Fixers" like to follow directions, too. If they're putting something together, they have to have explicit instructions. If all they have is a picture of the finished product, they just won't (or can't) do it. Telling him he needs to be more concerned is like giving him a picture without instructions. Instead, I've found it useful to just say "Today I am...", or "Right now I need..." and make it specific to the moment. But you also have to accept that he may not react the way you want. That's the hardest part; accepting that the only person you can change is you. But I bet if you make a habit of stating your specific need and accept whatever he is able to give in response, that you will see changes in him, too. Don't give up on the love of your life..