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Originally Posted by donut
I don't know. I seem to be having some difficulties here. I have had the same psych for flipping ages and have always liked him. At times though I have felt annoyed by his behaviour; and my own if I am honest.
I have always found it difficult to see him as my psych and saw him more as a friend if truth be known. This was partly due to the fact that I worked in the same hospital as him and I guess I saw him more as a colleague. He for his part was often happy to lend me books, he gave me an old computer and offered a lift when I was ill.
There was never any hint of anything dodgy. Despite this I was aware of a blurring of boundaries. In consultations I wasn't talking about my illness any more. It had become a friendly chat.I think he must have realised it too,there is a change in his behaviour towards me. He can't get me out of his office quick enough. Perhaps this is why I feel angry with him at the moment. I feel like I have lost a friend.
I would like to discuss it with him, but Icould end up looking like a right plonker!
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Dear Donut,
I can understand your sadness and anger. If this is a pdoc who has a very good handle on your symptoms and is fantastic at med management, then I feel you owe it to yourself to get some "reality testing" right from the source - that being your pdoc.
You say he has had a change in behavior towards you - that you get the sense he is rushing you out of the office. These are your feelings. Perhaps you are right and perhaps you are wrong. There are a million possibilities of why he is rushing you out of the office, and there is a possibility that none of this has anything to do with you.
I think it is normal for people to jump to conclusions about other people's actions or tone of voice or any number of things. Quite normal, but not always the best approach if what we want is to get our needs met.
So, if this pdoc is someone you would like to continue to see and feel good about, I would suggest that you have a conversation with your pdoc about how you perceive things and what you would like.
The formula goes:
I feel....
when......
I would like.....
Keep us posted!
Hugs, Laurie