Toothlesslady gave me fantastic advice in chat, I am going to follow through on any punishment I say that I am as I am the weak link in this marriage.

I am going to hit him where it hurts .... His money. He gets £5 a week pocket money and I am going to take 50p off him everytime he is rude lazy or ignores me. He will get it back in a lump sum IF he does something really nice. Because I am giving the money back to him I can follow this through I do not feel bad.

His basic nature is happy go lucky nice lad so this should not take long.

He has had alot of changes in his life in the past few months he has gone from a tiny school to a very large school. He was the big fish in the pond now he is the smallest fish in the ocean. (I think I said that right lol).

He is testing the boundaries here with us and we have to let him know what they are in a fair but firm way.