Hello, sorry I've been MIA and didn't reply earlier. What you said is so true, that a person will tell you what's bothering them and why, if you just listen! I had to tell you that (that I think it's very true) because it's something I didn't realize earlier!

and Yes, knowing what is bothering me does make me feel better! At least it has a name and can therefore be dealt with instead of being one big nameless feeling that translates into the desire to SI.

I feel better about that other thing but been SIing regularly for other reasons and now every little thing is becoming a reason ..just want to cry all the time coz everything seems so scary.