Thanks for your replys. I know there are some of you who feel i am not being fair to my bfs neice and not thinking of her and her situation. I feel guilty and bad about the way i feel but i cannot help the way i am and the type of personality i have and the fact that this is too much for me. I am dealing with depression and anxiety and other issues. Being that i don't have children i have not had to have that responsibility and i have had the place to myself most of the time when my bf works or is out and when he's home its just us. I like it that way. I need my space. Even growing up i needed to be by myself. That is who i am. I can't deal with someone being around me all the time talking and especially questionning me which i know kids do. I know this is hard for mothers to understand. I sleep with the bedroom door closed and try to keep it closed as long as possible and she will knock and then come in and sit down whether i want her to or not. I can't even be in my bedroom in peace. I did not ask or want to be in this predicament. She does need to feel welcome and wanted and she needs parenting and i don't feel like she can get that here, not from me unfortunately. I am not able to give her what she needs i have my own issues i am trying to deal with. I wasn't happy with my life and like i said dealing with depression, panic attacks and misery and adding this responsibility is too much for me. I don't think its fair. To me or to her. I don't know what to do or what the answer is. I know she will be hurt if he tells her she has to go somewhere else and it will affect everyone especially my bf's relationship with her and his family. It will ruin our relationship as well. If she stays then i'm a miserable nervous wreck. Already i am not well, i'm dizzy and am having headaches. She trys to help out sometimes and i know she is trying to fit in. I do feel guilty about the way i feel but i can't help it. My bf is fine and i think happy with situation because he can help out his family for once. We have never been able to have anyone stay because of the apartment being so small. But that doesn't seem to matter now. I don't know how to handle this. How do i get my space, how do i tell her not to come in when i have the door closed without hurting her feelings. I'm basically putting my own feelings aside so she will feel ok and i'm angry and miserable. Anyway i appreciate everyones input and thank you for your support.

Anjelmarie