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My T lets me e-mail as much as I want to. I'm the first client he's used e-mail with, so it took some work at the beginning for us to find a system that works.

We finally came up with some specific words I have to use so he knows to reply. Now, years later, he sometimes replies when I don't ask, which is nice, but if I NEED a reply, I always let him know.

At the beginning of therapy, he ended up liking e-mail as a tool, because it was really hard for me to open up or access my feelings in session, and my e-mails showed him what it was like for me when I wasn't doing well in between sessions.

Now, I e-mail him quotes or stories I know he'll like sometimes. I e-mail when I'm having a hard time, or I just need to think something out in writing. He told me recently he could tell I had a hard weekend because of the number of e-mails, so I guess it gives him that kind of information too.

Sometimes we talk about the e-mails, but not always.

I think it would be a great thing to ask your therapist about. Every T/client pair is different and has to find what works best for them.