That used to happen to me an awful lot in therapy, but I was so miserable that I forced myself to talk about whatever it was that I couldn't talk about. Often I would bring it up about 5 minutes before we had to stop, so I wouldn't have to say much. Or, I wouldn't say it but I would call as soon as I got home and tell my T on the phone what I couldn't say.

Through the years I became braver. I don't know how it happened. I wish I did so I could help you. I think I just realized that the misery of not telling T was worse than that of gritting my teeth and telling her. I'm talking about a few Ts here, not getting comfortable with one for years and years. When I saw my last T, I told her whatever I needed to, and I do that with my current T.

If I can't say something now, I email it. In the past, sometimes I'd write it down but maybe I'd spend the whole session not talking.

My advice is, other than emailing or calling so T knows what the subject is, is to start right at the beginning of the session and say, "I have to talk about something but I can't." Then T will help you to talk.

I know it's hard. I hope you can tell T next week, or sooner by phone or email.