Dear Peaches, if someone asks a direct question, there should be an answer of some kind......I know if I asked you a direct question I would wait for an answer.

in your post, the only question I find in there is this one >> Why does reaching a state of healing and independence mean it's necessary to cut off all contact?
and I don't think it should necessarily be so; I know I am a long way from being "done" but my T has already told me that I can always come back if I need help. Still she is going to retire within the next few years I am sure; that's not the same as just terminating; and for the T to take a new job somewhere else is another set of circumstances again. For retirement I have no answer; for moving, it seems just to myself that contact now and then should not be that big a deal.

As a Catholic I do not equate one's Confessor with one's T, but there are certainly some similarities in the two trust relationships; I have had two Confessors in the past who knew me for 6-7 yr periods each, and have now transferred, but even after 15-20 yrs I would not hesitate to contact either of them to get help that only they could give, just to me, and I know that they wouldn't mind giving it.