Jexa: Yes, I am so fortunate to have found my T. I almost didn't find her! She wasn't on my list of Ts to contact from psychologytoday, but someone in her building struck me as perfect. When I called this other T, she didn't take my insurance so I asked her if she knew anyone like her. She suggested my T!! Then, when I had my first session, my T wanted to send me to other Ts who were more experienced with EMDR. When I called one, and made an appointment, her voice on the phone scared me for some reason so I cancelled the appointment, called my "now T" and told her that. She said to trust my gut, so that's how I ended up with her. I hope you and your new T work out like my new one did.

Peaches: Yes, it's validating. In fact, it means more to me than almost anything any of my Ts in 15 years have done for me. Letting me hold her hand is up there too, but this is different. I wonder if she just did it like a mother would put up her child's artwork even it wasn't good, but I know that's not true. I don't think she could fake how much she likes it.

I also think, and want to tell her, that besides being personal, it could be fitting for any of her clients. I didn't think of that. I mean, it's her appointment cards, which are pretty photographs, and hands touching over that, which is what therapy is all about--the connection. She didn't put up my poem because that was personal, she said.