booboo,

Please rid your mind of any thoughts of you being the cause of this abuse. I know abuse is a strong word, but in this case, that is exactly what it is. He is terrifying you and that is abusive behavior. Your primary concern as the others have said should be to remove yourself and your son from this situation ASAP. If you want to work on the relationship, do it from a safe distance.

I'm wishing you all the best with this and I hope you'll stay in touch with us. Please take good care of you and your son.

bptoo

"The difference between 'involvement' and 'commitment' is like an eggs-and-ham breakfast: the chicken was 'involved' - the pig was
'committed'."