{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Conklinca,
I know the feeling. My experience has been that when I get angry and verbally lash out. Then I feel guilty about having lashed out. I have gotten better, much better - mainly by knowing that I can not do it on my own. I take a deep breath and hand over my anger to my higher power. I try to remember that we are all people trying to live a life and sometimes we knock into eachother (figuratively). I try to put into perspective what is/was said or done in the context of years. Will this bother me next year or is it just a temporary fluctuation? If it is something that will linger I try to do something proactive about it - change the circumstances so that I am not in that situation again or discuss it with whoever is involved. If it is temporary I try to remember what a friend said years ago - let the words roll off you like water off a ducks back. It is wonderful that you recognize this as something you want to change and desire growth. Encouragement from here!
CD