((((( tryingtobeme )))))

It so common among sa survivors to have difficulty with sexual aspects of a relationship. We spend so much of our time hating oursleves and putting ourselves down. We equate sex with wrong, guilt, bad etc. It is understandable that being with your husband can be traumatic experience, especially if you aren't able to talk to him. We put so much stress on ourselves to fulfill society's idea of what we are supposed to be... you have to have money to be considered successful, you have to please your husband to be a good wife, you have to be skinny to be beautiful. Al these roles that we are trying to fulfill take us so far away from who we really are... Istead of focussing on yourself, starting to love yourself for who you are, being able to look in the mirror and not wince. It is a long and treacherous journey, and I myself have not reached the destination. lynn made a good suggestion of finding another T... you don't have to battle this alone.