I found out what he had been hiding from me...the court dates were for his second DWI charge! Not sure what's the truth anymore...if the $5,000 bail has something to do with missing a court date, or if he was found guilty, and that's why he is in jail now. That's right he is in jail now, I visited him last night, he was quite depressed, obviously. Orange didn't look good on him. I feel like _I_ am in jail...although I do want to show him I still care about him..which, I do, no matter how I try to counteract the feelings I still have for him. (The story about being attacked was to cover for all the court dates) Everyone that meets him loves him, he is getting his master's (was) he can be quite loving. I think I will research a support group for other women going through the same thing. Thank you PC for being there for me....I know you are....