Thank you all. So very sweet and much appreciated.
Well, we're back and unfortunately, I can't say that it went particularly well. Seems they added a second felony charge to what he was charged with when arrested (booked? Not quite sure when that happens in the process). Then, in calling to obtain a public defender, they said 24 hours must pass. With the weekend, that means we can't even set up an appointment with one till Monday. Great. More time to totally stress over it. Obviously we'll be insisting on a psych eval (and he does have a history of mental issues that not oncommonly lead to such a state, this just reached a new level). Still, with the attitude of laymen towards mental issues (and who among us doesn't know this all too well?...) along with the level of the charges it is beyond scary.

I feel like crying. Hard. Even though I have a hard time doing that anymore, my insides are howling it. We are just feeling so powerless, very very scared and with such loss of control over our lives. I've felt powerless so strongly and many times in the past, and this just trumps those times in such a huge way. Words fail.