Don’t worry about it Ben. You avoiding that bar won’t get him sober. Your going to that bar won’t get him drunk. If you enjoy his company, relax and enjoy yourself. It won’t make him drink any more or any less than he will.

Like you said, we alcoholics aren’t interested in activities that don’t involve drinking. He is the sole author of his drinking problem, not you. If you never set foot in that bar again, he would still be there.

Rehabs, good intentioned friends like yourself, lonely wives, children with tear stained faces, nothing gets us sober but a sincere desire to do so, and a solid plan to see that it happens.

Cruse into the bar, enjoy yourself and know that you didn’t break him and you can’t fix him either. It’s not in your hands.

Richard