While I see red flags all over your post, this right here is a really clear violation of ethics, regardless of ANYTHING else. We are free to come and go in our therapy, and our therapists are not supposed to pressure us to stay.

In times when I've been in crisis and have wanted to quit therapy, my T has gently said something like "I don't think that would be a good idea right now"...but never pressured me, and I knew that the decision was mine and mine alone.

I was in a "therapeutic" relationship in my late teens where the boundaries basically disappeared and it ended very badly. It was actually the very first issue I had to work on when I started with my current therapist three years ago, and it kept me from seeking help for many, many years.

YOU are in charge of your therapy. If you feel like the boundaries are being blurred, they probably are.

I'm sorry that you are in that situation....it sounds really hard. I wonder if it would help to go to another therapist to describe what is going on? It might help clarify things for you, and help you decide if it's time to move on.